about Relationships ...

Q. What happened on the best date you've ever had?
It all came together in five minutes. We met for pizza and then went
hiking in the local forest. After that we went to Cape May, NJ to do a
little sightseeing and have dinner. It was nice because nothing was
planned but since we both felt so comfortable with each other the day just felt
relaxed and natural.

Q. What happened on the worst date you've ever had?
I answered a personal ad in PGN. My blind date met me just outside the entrance to Lit Brothers. After brief intros, he asked if I minded going to have his baby shoes bronzed, which he had brought along. I was new to the area, and he also gave me a walking tour of the gay bars and
restaurants. He actually fell asleep several times! At least three times throughout the evening, which I hope had more to do with him then with me. It wasn't exactly a good match.

Q. What is it about gay relationships that makes you anxious or depressed? And what can you do about it?
A. I'm anxious because I can't find anyone in particular, or even any friends, to be with who want to be with me. I think I need to change myself, my life, or my attitude though I don't know how.

A. I am depressed about not being able to meet a quality, real person to share my life with. I think I need to expand my gay social circle and be able to place myself in situations where I will meet quality people.

A. I get depressed because I'm not meeting any appropriate guys to date. If I would show up at events that I would enjoy and make more social plans, maybe it would get a little better each day.

A. I feel anxious and depressed about not having a boyfriend. I can't meet guys at the regular places like coffee shops, bars or the gym. I guess I need to find different places where gay guys meet. How about the internet...does that work?

A. I'm depressed because my boyfriend and I just can't seem to get it together. We're always fighting and it's just gotten too hard. I don't know whether to just give up, break up and move on, or start trying even harder. I mean, how do you know for sure when enough is enough? In order to get over this I know I need to make a decision and stick with it, but I'm having trouble. I know a relationship takes a lot of work, but I just don't think it should be this hard.

Q. What is your personal idea of 'intimacy'?
A. Naturally you immediately equate intimacy with physical sex. For me, in
its most basic form, intimacy is about caring for or about someone else, it
is mutual concern for one another.